Easier Life:
Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give
up on them, will make your life a lot easier
and much, much happier. We hold on to so
many things that cause us a great deal of
pain, stress and suffering – and instead of
letting them all go, instead of allowing
ourselves to be stress free and happy – we
cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting
today we will give up on all those things that
no longer serve us, and we will embrace
change. Ready? Here we go:
1. Give up your need to always be right.
There are so many of us who can’t stand the
idea of being wrong – wanting to always be
right – even at the risk of ending great
relationships or causing a great deal of
stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s
just not worth it. Whenever you feel the
‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who
is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this
question: “Would I rather be right, or
would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What
difference will that make? Is your ego really
that big?
2. Give up your need for control. Be willing
to give up your need to always control
everything that happens to you and around
you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether
they are loved ones, coworkers, or just
strangers you meet on the street – just allow
them to be. Allow everything and everyone
to be just as they are and you will see how
much better will that make you feel.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world
is won by those who let it go. But when
you try and try. The world is beyond
winning.” Lao Tzu
3. Give up on blame. Give up on your need
to blame others for what you have or don’t
have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop
giving your powers away and start taking
responsibility for your life.
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh
my. How many people are hurting
themselves because of their negative,
polluted and repetitive self-defeating
mindset? Don’t believe everything that your
mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative
and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used
rightly. Used wrongly, however, it
becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what
you can or cannot do, about what is
possible or impossible. From now on, you
are no longer going to allow your limiting
beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place.
Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it
is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle
6. Give up complaining. Give up your
constant need to complain about those
many, many, maaany things – people,
situations, events that make you unhappy,
sad and depressed. Nobody can make you
unhappy, no situation can make you sad or
miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the
situation that triggers those feelings in you,
but how you choose to look at it. Never
underestimate the power of positive
thinking.
7. Give up the luxury of criticism. Give up
your need to criticize things, events or
people that are different than you. We are all
different, yet we are all the same. We all
want to be happy, we all want to love and
be loved and we all want to be understood.
We all want something, and something is
wished by us all.
8. Give up your need to impress
others. Stop trying so hard to be something
that you’re not just to make others like you.
It doesn’t work this way. The moment you
stop trying so hard to be something that
you’re not, the moment you take off all your
masks, the moment you accept and embrace
the real you, you will find people will be
drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. Give up your resistance to
change. Change is good. Change will help
you move from A to B. Change will help you
make improvements in your life and also the
lives of those around you. Follow your bliss,
embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will
open doors for you where there were only
walls” Joseph Campbell
10. Give up labels. Stop labeling those
things, people or events that you don’t
understand as being weird or different and
try opening your mind, little by little. Minds
only work when open. “The highest form of
ignorance is when you reject something
you don’t know anything about.” Wayne
Dyer
11. Give up on your fears. Fear is just an
illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s
all in your mind. Correct the inside and the
outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear
itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt
12. Give up your excuses. Send them
packing and tell them they’re fired. You no
longer need them. A lot of times we limit
ourselves because of the many excuses we
use. Instead of growing and working on
improving ourselves and our lives, we get
stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of
excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time
are not even real.
13. Give up the past. I know, I know. It’s
hard. Especially when the past looks so
much better than the present and the future
looks so frightening, but you have to take
into consideration the fact that the present
moment is all you have and all you will ever
have. The past you are now longing for –
the past that you are now dreaming about –
was ignored by you when it was present.
Stop deluding yourself. Be present in
everything you do and enjoy life. After all life
is a journey not a destination. Have a clear
vision for the future, prepare yourself, but
always be present in the now.
14. Give up attachment. This is a concept
that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I
have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still
is) but it’s not something impossible. You
get better and better at with time and
practice. The moment you detach yourself
from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you
give up your love for them – because love
and attachment have nothing to do with
one another, attachment comes from a
place of fear, while love… well, real love is
pure, kind, and self less, where there is love
there can’t be fear, and because of that,
attachment and love cannot coexist) you
become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind,
and so serene. You will get to a place where
you will be able to understand all things
without even trying. A state beyond words.
15. Give up living your life to other
people’s expectations. Way too many
people are living a life that is not theirs to
live. They live their lives according to what
others think is best for them, they live their
lives according to what their parents think is
best for them, to what their friends, their
enemies and their teachers, their
government and the media think is best for
them. They ignore their inner voice, that
inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing
everybody, with living up to other people’s
expectations, that they lose control over
their lives. They forget what makes them
happy, what they want, what they
need….and eventually they forget about
themselves. You have one life – this one
right now – you must live it, own it, and
especially don’t let other people’s opinions
distract you from your path.
Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give
up on them, will make your life a lot easier
and much, much happier. We hold on to so
many things that cause us a great deal of
pain, stress and suffering – and instead of
letting them all go, instead of allowing
ourselves to be stress free and happy – we
cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting
today we will give up on all those things that
no longer serve us, and we will embrace
change. Ready? Here we go:
1. Give up your need to always be right.
There are so many of us who can’t stand the
idea of being wrong – wanting to always be
right – even at the risk of ending great
relationships or causing a great deal of
stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s
just not worth it. Whenever you feel the
‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who
is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this
question: “Would I rather be right, or
would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What
difference will that make? Is your ego really
that big?
2. Give up your need for control. Be willing
to give up your need to always control
everything that happens to you and around
you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether
they are loved ones, coworkers, or just
strangers you meet on the street – just allow
them to be. Allow everything and everyone
to be just as they are and you will see how
much better will that make you feel.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world
is won by those who let it go. But when
you try and try. The world is beyond
winning.” Lao Tzu
3. Give up on blame. Give up on your need
to blame others for what you have or don’t
have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop
giving your powers away and start taking
responsibility for your life.
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh
my. How many people are hurting
themselves because of their negative,
polluted and repetitive self-defeating
mindset? Don’t believe everything that your
mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative
and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used
rightly. Used wrongly, however, it
becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what
you can or cannot do, about what is
possible or impossible. From now on, you
are no longer going to allow your limiting
beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place.
Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it
is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle
6. Give up complaining. Give up your
constant need to complain about those
many, many, maaany things – people,
situations, events that make you unhappy,
sad and depressed. Nobody can make you
unhappy, no situation can make you sad or
miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the
situation that triggers those feelings in you,
but how you choose to look at it. Never
underestimate the power of positive
thinking.
7. Give up the luxury of criticism. Give up
your need to criticize things, events or
people that are different than you. We are all
different, yet we are all the same. We all
want to be happy, we all want to love and
be loved and we all want to be understood.
We all want something, and something is
wished by us all.
8. Give up your need to impress
others. Stop trying so hard to be something
that you’re not just to make others like you.
It doesn’t work this way. The moment you
stop trying so hard to be something that
you’re not, the moment you take off all your
masks, the moment you accept and embrace
the real you, you will find people will be
drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. Give up your resistance to
change. Change is good. Change will help
you move from A to B. Change will help you
make improvements in your life and also the
lives of those around you. Follow your bliss,
embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will
open doors for you where there were only
walls” Joseph Campbell
10. Give up labels. Stop labeling those
things, people or events that you don’t
understand as being weird or different and
try opening your mind, little by little. Minds
only work when open. “The highest form of
ignorance is when you reject something
you don’t know anything about.” Wayne
Dyer
11. Give up on your fears. Fear is just an
illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s
all in your mind. Correct the inside and the
outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear
itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt
12. Give up your excuses. Send them
packing and tell them they’re fired. You no
longer need them. A lot of times we limit
ourselves because of the many excuses we
use. Instead of growing and working on
improving ourselves and our lives, we get
stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of
excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time
are not even real.
13. Give up the past. I know, I know. It’s
hard. Especially when the past looks so
much better than the present and the future
looks so frightening, but you have to take
into consideration the fact that the present
moment is all you have and all you will ever
have. The past you are now longing for –
the past that you are now dreaming about –
was ignored by you when it was present.
Stop deluding yourself. Be present in
everything you do and enjoy life. After all life
is a journey not a destination. Have a clear
vision for the future, prepare yourself, but
always be present in the now.
14. Give up attachment. This is a concept
that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I
have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still
is) but it’s not something impossible. You
get better and better at with time and
practice. The moment you detach yourself
from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you
give up your love for them – because love
and attachment have nothing to do with
one another, attachment comes from a
place of fear, while love… well, real love is
pure, kind, and self less, where there is love
there can’t be fear, and because of that,
attachment and love cannot coexist) you
become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind,
and so serene. You will get to a place where
you will be able to understand all things
without even trying. A state beyond words.
15. Give up living your life to other
people’s expectations. Way too many
people are living a life that is not theirs to
live. They live their lives according to what
others think is best for them, they live their
lives according to what their parents think is
best for them, to what their friends, their
enemies and their teachers, their
government and the media think is best for
them. They ignore their inner voice, that
inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing
everybody, with living up to other people’s
expectations, that they lose control over
their lives. They forget what makes them
happy, what they want, what they
need….and eventually they forget about
themselves. You have one life – this one
right now – you must live it, own it, and
especially don’t let other people’s opinions
distract you from your path.
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