Every morning in Africa, a Gazelle wakes up. It knows it must run faster than the fastest Lion or it’ll be killed. Every morning a Lion wakes up. it knows it must outrun the slowest Gazelle or it’ll strave to death. It doesn’t matter whether you are a lion or a Gazelle… when the sun comes up, you’d better be running.
‘ You’ll get over it…’ It’s the cliches that cause the trouble. To lose someone you love is to alter your life forever. You don’t get over it because ‘it’ is the person you loved. The pain stops, there are new people, but the gap never closses.
I’m like a Lion _ I roar. If someone betray me, I won’t be a victim. I don’t sulk, I get angry. i go immediately into retaliation. But it always come from insecurity or pain.
The one excellent thing that can be learn from a Lion is that whatever a man intends doing should be done by him with a whole-hearted and strenuous effort.

Believe In Yourself...

You are powerful when you believe in
yourself – when you know that you are
capable of anything you put your mind to.
You are beautiful when your strength and
determination shines as you follow your
own path – when you aren’t disheveled by
the obstacles along the way. You are
unstoppable when you let your mistakes
educate you, as your confidence builds from
experiences – when you know you can fall
down, pick yourself up, and move forward.
Here are 11 ways to become the person you
love.
1. Stop judging, and appreciate the beauty
within you. – Judging yourself is not the
same as being honest with yourself. When
it comes to living as a compassionate, non-
judgmental human being, the only challenge
greater than learning to walk a mile in
someone else’s shoes, is learning to walk a
lifetime comfortably in your own. In every
smile there is beauty. In every heart there is
love. In every mind there is wisdom. In
every human being there is a soul, there is
life, there is worth, and there is the ability to
see all these things in everyone, including
one’s self. Read The Mastery of Love .
2. Treat yourself the way you want others to
treat you. – Accept yourself! Insecurity is
what’s ugly, not you. Be you, just the way
you are, in the beautiful way only you know
how. The way you treat yourself sets the
standard for others. You must love who you
are or no one else will either. And when you
are truly comfortable in your own skin, not
everyone will like you, but you won’t care
about it one bit.
3. Care less about who you are to others. –
Don’t lose YOU in your search for acceptance
by others. Be aware that you will always
appear to be a little less than some people
prefer you to be, but that most people are
unaware that you are so much more then
what they see. You are good enough just
the way you are. You have nothing to prove
to anyone else. Care less about who you are
to others and more about who you are to
yourself.
4. Know your worth. – We often accept the
love we think we deserve. It makes no
sense to be second in someone’s life, when
you know you’re good enough to be first in
someone else’s.
5. Don’t rush intimate relationships. – Love is
not about sex, going on fancy dates, or
showing off. It’s about being with a person
who makes you happy in a way nobody else
can. You don’t need a perfect one, you just
need someone who you can trust – who
shows you that you’re the only one. If you
haven’t found true love yet, don’t settle.
There is someone out there who will love
you unconditionally, even if it’s not the
person you were initially hoping for.
6. Let go of those who aren’t really there. –
There are certain people who aren’t meant
to fit into your life no matter how much you
want them to. And the only ones truly
worthy of your love are the ones who stand
with you through the hard times and laugh
with you after the hard times pass. Maybe a
happy ending doesn’t include anyone else
right now. Maybe it’s just you, on your own,
picking up the pieces and starting over,
freeing yourself for something better in the
future. Maybe the happy ending is simply
letting go.
7. Forgive yourself and others. – Of all the
things that can be stolen from you – your
possessions, your youth, your health, your
words, your rights – what no one can ever
take from you is your freedom to choose
what you will believe in, and who and what
your heart will love going forward. Life
begins where your fear and resentment
ends. Just because someone hurt you
yesterday, doesn’t mean you should hate the
world, or start living life today in constant
fear of being hurt tomorrow. When you
forgive yourself and others, and stop the
inner imprisonment, you’re creating the love
of your life. Read The Tao of Pooh .
8. Focus on the positive. – Do not let the pain
make you hopeless. Do not let the negativity
wear off on you. Do not let the bitterness
steal your sweetness. Even though others
may disagree with you, take pride in the fact
that you still know the world is a beautiful
place. Change your thoughts and you
change your reality. Our thoughts are the
makers of our moods, the inventors of our
dreams, and the creators of our will. That is
why we must sort through them carefully,
and choose to respond only to those that
will help us build the life we want, and the
outlook we want to hold as we’re living it.
9. Believe in the person you are capable of
being. – The real purpose of your life is to
evolve and grow into the whole person you
are capable of being. Have a mind that is
open to everything and attached to
nothing. Change really is always possible –
there is no ability that can’t be developed
with experience. Don’t ever let your
negative beliefs stand in the way of your
own improvement. Read A New Earth .
10. Work on goals you believe in. – Never put
off or give up on a goal that’s important to
you. Not because you still have tomorrow to
start or try again, but because you may not
have tomorrow at all. Life is shorter than it
sometimes seems. Follow your heart today.
11. Keep looking and moving straight
forward. – Moving on doesn’t mean you
have forgotten; it means you have accepted
what happened in the past and choose to
continue living in the present. Moving on
doesn’t mean you’re giving up; it means
you’re giving yourself another chance by
making a choice to be happy rather than
hurt. Through all the problems you have
faced, the burdens weighing down on your
shoulders, the pain in your heart, you have
only one thing to say, “I survived and I now
know better for next time.”
In the end, loving yourself is about enjoying
your life, trusting your own feelings, taking
chances, losing and finding happiness,
cherishing the memories, and learning from
the past. Sometimes you have to stop
worrying, wondering, and doubting. Have
faith that things will work out, maybe not
exactly how you planned, but just how it’s
meant to be.

Creativity

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Creativity

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 Vijay Wankhede 

 Wednesday, May 9, 2012 at 1:50pm ·

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‘Creativity is not a talent. It is a way of
operating.’
Much has been said about how creativity
works, its secrets, its origins, and what we
can do to optimize ourselves for it. In this
excerpt from his fantastic 1991 lecture, John
Cleese offers a recipe for creativity,
delivered with his signature blend of cultural
insight and comedic genius. Specifically,
Cleese outlines “the 5 factors that you can
arrange to make your lives more creative”:
1. Space (“You can’t become playful, and
therefore creative, if you’re under your usual
pressures.”)
2. Time (“It’s not enough to create space; you
have to create your space for a specific
period of time.”)
3. Time (“Giving your mind as long as possible
to come up with something original,” and
learning to tolerate the discomfort of
pondering time and indecision.)
4. Confidence (“Nothing will stop you being
creative so effectively as the fear of making
a mistake.”)
5. Humor (“The main evolutionary significance
of humor is that it gets us from the closed
mode to the open mode quicker than
anything else.”)
The lecture is worth a watch in its entirety,
below, if only to get a full grasp of Cleese’s
model for creativity as the interplay of two
modes of operating — open, where we take
a wide-angle, abstract view of the problem
and allow the mind to ponder possible
solutions, and closed, where we zoom in on
implementing a specific solution with
narrow precision. Along the way, Cleese
explores the traps and travails of the two
modes and of letting their osmosis get out
of balance.
A few more quotable nuggets of insight
excerpted below the video.
Creativity is not a talent. It is a way of
operating.
We need to be in the open mode when
pondering a problem — but! — once we
come up with a solution, we must then
switch to the closed mode to implement it.
Because once we’ve made a decision, we
are efficient only if we go through with it
decisively, undistracted by doubts about its
correctness.
Cleese goes on to caution against a trap in
this duality, one particularly hazardous in
politics:
To be at our most efficient, we need to be
able to switch backwards and forward
between the two modes. But — here’s the
problem — we too often get stuck in the
closed mode. Under the pressures which are
all too familiar to us, we tend to maintain
tunnel vision at times when we really need
to step back and contemplate the wider
view.
This is particularly true, for example, of
politicians. The main complaint about them
from their nonpolitical colleagues is that
they’ve become so addicted to the
adrenaline that they get from reacting to
events on an hour-by-hour basis that they
almost completely lose the desire or the
ability to ponder problems in the open
mode.
Cleese concludes with a beautiful
articulation of the premise and promise of
his recipe for creativity:
This is the extraordinary thing about
creativity: If just you keep your mind resting
against the subject in a friendly but
persistent way, sooner or later you will get a
reward from your unconscious.

Easier Life

Easier Life:

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give
up on them, will make your life a lot easier
and much, much happier. We hold on to so
many things that cause us a great deal of
pain, stress and suffering – and instead of
letting them all go, instead of allowing
ourselves to be stress free and happy – we
cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting
today we will give up on all those things that
no longer serve us, and we will embrace
change. Ready? Here we go:
1. Give up your need to always be right.
There are so many of us who can’t stand the
idea of being wrong – wanting to always be
right – even at the risk of ending great
relationships or causing a great deal of
stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s
just not worth it. Whenever you feel the
‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who
is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this
question: “Would I rather be right, or
would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What
difference will that make? Is your ego really
that big?
2. Give up your need for control. Be willing
to give up your need to always control
everything that happens to you and around
you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether
they are loved ones, coworkers, or just
strangers you meet on the street – just allow
them to be. Allow everything and everyone
to be just as they are and you will see how
much better will that make you feel.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world
is won by those who let it go. But when
you try and try. The world is beyond
winning.” Lao Tzu
3. Give up on blame. Give up on your need
to blame others for what you have or don’t
have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop
giving your powers away and start taking
responsibility for your life.
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh
my. How many people are hurting
themselves because of their negative,
polluted and repetitive self-defeating
mindset? Don’t believe everything that your
mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative
and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used
rightly. Used wrongly, however, it
becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what
you can or cannot do, about what is
possible or impossible. From now on, you
are no longer going to allow your limiting
beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place.
Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it
is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle
6. Give up complaining. Give up your
constant need to complain about those
many, many, maaany things – people,
situations, events that make you unhappy,
sad and depressed. Nobody can make you
unhappy, no situation can make you sad or
miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the
situation that triggers those feelings in you,
but how you choose to look at it. Never
underestimate the power of positive
thinking.
7. Give up the luxury of criticism. Give up
your need to criticize things, events or
people that are different than you. We are all
different, yet we are all the same. We all
want to be happy, we all want to love and
be loved and we all want to be understood.
We all want something, and something is
wished by us all.
8. Give up your need to impress
others. Stop trying so hard to be something
that you’re not just to make others like you.
It doesn’t work this way. The moment you
stop trying so hard to be something that
you’re not, the moment you take off all your
masks, the moment you accept and embrace
the real you, you will find people will be
drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. Give up your resistance to
change. Change is good. Change will help
you move from A to B. Change will help you
make improvements in your life and also the
lives of those around you. Follow your bliss,
embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will
open doors for you where there were only
walls” Joseph Campbell
10. Give up labels. Stop labeling those
things, people or events that you don’t
understand as being weird or different and
try opening your mind, little by little. Minds
only work when open. “The highest form of
ignorance is when you reject something
you don’t know anything about.” Wayne
Dyer
11. Give up on your fears. Fear is just an
illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s
all in your mind. Correct the inside and the
outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear
itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt
12. Give up your excuses. Send them
packing and tell them they’re fired. You no
longer need them. A lot of times we limit
ourselves because of the many excuses we
use. Instead of growing and working on
improving ourselves and our lives, we get
stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of
excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time
are not even real.
13. Give up the past. I know, I know. It’s
hard. Especially when the past looks so
much better than the present and the future
looks so frightening, but you have to take
into consideration the fact that the present
moment is all you have and all you will ever
have. The past you are now longing for –
the past that you are now dreaming about –
was ignored by you when it was present.
Stop deluding yourself. Be present in
everything you do and enjoy life. After all life
is a journey not a destination. Have a clear
vision for the future, prepare yourself, but
always be present in the now.
14. Give up attachment. This is a concept
that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I
have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still
is) but it’s not something impossible. You
get better and better at with time and
practice. The moment you detach yourself
from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you
give up your love for them – because love
and attachment have nothing to do with
one another, attachment comes from a
place of fear, while love… well, real love is
pure, kind, and self less, where there is love
there can’t be fear, and because of that,
attachment and love cannot coexist) you
become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind,
and so serene. You will get to a place where
you will be able to understand all things
without even trying. A state beyond words.
15. Give up living your life to other
people’s expectations. Way too many
people are living a life that is not theirs to
live. They live their lives according to what
others think is best for them, they live their
lives according to what their parents think is
best for them, to what their friends, their
enemies and their teachers, their
government and the media think is best for
them. They ignore their inner voice, that
inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing
everybody, with living up to other people’s
expectations, that they lose control over
their lives. They forget what makes them
happy, what they want, what they
need….and eventually they forget about
themselves. You have one life – this one
right now – you must live it, own it, and
especially don’t let other people’s opinions
distract you from your path.